I shared with you a few times this year that I’ve been having a tough time adjusting. I’ll be sharing more on that over the course of the next few weeks, as I sort through some things.
I specifically shared with you on Monday that I’ve started seeing a counselor who is helping me work through some of my difficulties. No one mentioned that they read this so I can’t tell if I’ve struck a nerve with you and it’s too uncomfortable for you to talk about, or if I just accidentally hid it too well under my “Fall is (sort of) coming” post.
Either way, last night I got this blog post from one of my favorite writers and my heart ached for her. I’m not dealing with postpartum stuff, but many of her words struck a chord with me; with where I have been in my spirit for a few months. Maybe what I’m dealing with is called “post-moving-back-to-the-states-and-then-finding-yourself-in-the-center-of-the-hottest-place-on-the-earth-and-you-really-wanted-to-go-somewhere-really-really-cold syndrome.”
Anyway, I wanted to share the blog post that I read last night with you. Please check out Kelly’s story at The Complete Guide to Imperfect Homemaking.
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I struggled with our move to WSMR for over a year. Some from the climate and dull scenery, some from the isolation and frustrating nature of the post, and some from tragic circumstances that affected us directly. However, through great people and with time, God has helped me enjoy being here this 2nd year. Hope it gets better for you too Jennifer.
Thank you so much! I am already feeling some better, but I don’t want to give any spoilers so shhhh… don’t tell anyone. 🙂
Becky, I’m not happy that you struggled with the climate, but I’m glad to know someone else who was affected by the climate where they are. It seems so silly for that to be such a hang-up for me but the heat (and lack of cold, fall-like weather, is really bugging me). I have literally wondered if Seasonal Affective Disorder works in reverse for me.
Oh man… I wonder how close I am to depression sometimes, but overall I think no. But I am in a season of struggling, that’s for sure. My kiddo doesn’t sleep, I don’t know anyone, the people I do know are two hours behind, and the boys are at very trying ages. And the swings are from so high to so low. I’m trying to hash out my feelings for a full post so it’ll be coming soon, but it’s tough. When I’m in tears praying for me, I’ll put in a good word for you too 🙂
Your prayers are coveted and I will return the favor. Remember that moving is one of the top 5 life stressors up with with death and divorce. Not that moving is all bad, and even when the move was voluntary and for a great reason (an awesome new job or something equally cool), it is still a move and it can really mess with you.
Go to the nearest bookstore TODAY and pick up a copy of “After the Boxes are Unpacked.” You will not regret it.
I ordered the book tonight. I’m looking forward to reading it!
Fantastic! Oh, you will find a kindred spirit in the author. She’s not military (as you are not) but I connected with her. She knows about this moving-trauma! I’m so glad you ordered it!!
I struggle too with the new move, and adjusting. sometimes its just overwhelming, but then I remember there is grief mixed in so I try to remember to give myself grace too. Praying friend for you on the journey.
Becke, you should pick up “After the Boxes are Unpacked.” Hugely helpful. (And by “pick up” I mean order… I understand where you are you probably can’t “pick” that book up at the nearest book store.)
Grace. Give myself grace. (Something I need to remember…)
I’m proud of you for recognizing the fact that you would be helped by talking to someone 🙂
Know how I recognized it?!? Because I’ve been telling people for years to go see someone when they can’t seem to “get over” whatever trauma they’re dealing with. I’m married to a counselor and I know of the amazing work they do. I followed my own advice and don’t regret it… Thanks so much for your sweet words!
Jennifer, I love your open and caring heart! I struggled a lot when we moved from WA to GA. Carly was 2 months old, I’m a Yankee and the heat was unbearable (July in AL and GA – WOW!), Carly had reflux and colic, and Harold was working in 3 different locations – it was nuts! All I wanted was cool weather to give my heart peace. (Oh – and add to this that I was temporarily staying with my MIL who I had not bonded with yet. Ouch.) I prayed for God to give me HIS peace and be able to enjoy the heat. Well, I can tell you that I still don’t like the heat but HE made it better. Looking back, I should’ve sought counseling through that very trying time. You are doing a great thing for yourself and your family! I will be praying you!! 🙂 Thank you for sharing so openly with all of us!
Oh, Erin! I can’t imagine having to leave WA for the heat and humidity of GA! At least I have lived in the southeast so I sort of knew what to expect! Thank you for your sweet words of encouragement! If I can encourage just one person who was on the fence to go see a counselor, then I’m happy. As you know, our husbands do so much counseling for their soldiers, but a lot of spouses aren’t willing to go to a counselor (or don’t know that it’s available to them). I already feel so much better.