20 just sounds grown-up.

I have a 20-year-old. Weird.

Hayden is amazing, brave and kind, thoughtful and helpful. He may be messy, but his artistry makes up for it.

2020 and 2021 has been harder on him than anyone else in our family. Imagine having to move overseas, finish college, find a job, change jobs twice, become an adult, and prepare to launch from home in a brand new city during a global pandemic! All of those things are hard enough to do without facing the challenges of COVID and yet, those in the 18-25 year old age bracket are having to transition to “on-their-own-hood” during a season we are all completely confused by.

In spite of the struggles, Hayden continues to be a great son, a fantastic big brother, and a joy to know.

On one hand we dread the day he heads off on his next adventure, but on the other, we are eager to see him do his thing. We know he’s mature enough. He’s saving like crazy to be financially stable and prepared for the fun adventure ahead of him. I have treasured every day of the past two years having him home beyond his high school graduation. I wasn’t ready to see him launch then, but I can genuinely say that, while I will miss him, I feel more ready and at peace with the timing.

He has big plans that are still being worked out and I’ll share those once things are finalized, but we do covet your prayers for him to have wisdom as he makes really big decisions over the next few months. I specifically ask you to pray that God would reveal to Hayden what the next few years of his life should be spent doing. I would love for Hayden to know “what he was put on the planet to do” but I also don’t think that’s always the first thing God reveals to people. Matt definitely didn’t have Army Chaplaincy in mind, but he did know the next step was youth ministry and a Master’s Degree. We’re praying for Hayden to know with certainty what he’s supposed to do next.

To celebrate turning 20 Hayden traveled to Pennsylvania with his friend, Maddie, and they had a great time being in the country and meeting her family. When he got back we had dinner at a local German restaurant and then went home for dessert. I made his favorite kind of cake for his birthday and we celebrated him at home.

I still can’t believe I got picked to be his mom. Truly humbled by what an honor that is.

And in case you were in need of come cute baby pics:

You may not believe me but I remember each one of those days. I physically feel these pictures. I think it’s because this was the only season I had only one child and I was able to devote all of my attention to this gorgeous baby boy. I can almost smell the sunscreen in the picture of Hayden playing outside. I can still feel his feather-soft hair that literally disappeared when wet, it was so blonde. I know the texture of the toboggan and outfit he wore that year to get Christmas trees. He was the happiest kid at church that Easter! All of his pictures show him with that exact smile. I. Feel. These. Pictures.

I didn’t cry when he turned one. I haven’t cried at any birthday, at least that I can remember. But 20 was sort of a big deal. It is a big deal. And I did cry. He’s really an adult and he’s really about to launch into his own life and I couldn’t be more proud of him!


Written 5-30-21 and backdating to 5-4-21.

About Jennifer

"Yes, they're all mine." The answer to the question I hear most often.
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4 Responses to 20 just sounds grown-up.

  1. Maria Currey says:

    Most precious memories and images from then and now! Loving your heart while navigating this huge journey called parenting! Hayden’s 20th birthday looks to have been especially wonderful. Gentle prayers as he makes decisions over all that God will reveal – His wisdom, joy, peace, and presence guiding every step. Heart prayers and huge hugs!!

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