Pet peeve (or three?)

Facebook post from 8/29/2020 – I wrote this post after reading so much junk on Facebook that my body physically felt ill. I emailed it to Matt to read before posting to make sure I was saying what I wanted to say and to make sure I wasn’t off base. It started a conversation that was mostly productive.

I wanted to post my thoughts here for easy reference later on, as it’s often hard to scroll back on Facebook to find something.

I’ve spent the past (almost) 5 years educating myself on the racial situation in America and I’ve become convinced that we have a problem.

(1) I don’t understand why so many white people refuse to believe this. Every single person who has denied the problem (or that white people have any part to play in being the problem) has done almost zero research or work on the topic.I’m speaking of people I know personally and know they haven’t done the work. They just know that they, themselves, don’t hate Black people and would never intentionally mistreat people… therefore they assume that there is not problem in America.{With that faulty logic I could say that since I don’t have cancer, then cancer isn’t a big deal so why make all the fuss?!?}

(2) When white people share stories and memes that show just how good things are in the Black/white dynamic. An example I saw today made my blood boil as both a mom to a Black daughter and as an adoptive mother. People have been using the photo of the little boy hugging a police officer for years to show that things aren’t so bad after all. Turns out that little boy, Devonte Hart and his four siblings were adopted by white parents, abused, used as pawns in a political game, then murdered by those parents in a suicide/murder. STOP USING THAT PHOTO… If you want to undermine the cause, fine… I can’t stop you, but don’t use Devonte Hart’s picture. Ever. Again.

So my blood is boiling because I’m tired of seeing white people share pictures and stories of how good things are so “they” must be making things up, exaggerating the problem, or (and this one fires me up…) too lazy to work hard to get ahead, because, as we all know, “Lebron James, Oprah, Ben Carson, and Morgan Freeman all managed to become wealthy and overcome the odds so why can’t all the other Black people do that, as well.” My son made this point this week… Bill Gates is a bajillionare, so why aren’t all white people? Some people manage to overcome all sorts of odds, and I’m glad Lebron, Oprah, Ben, and Morgan have succeeded in their lives… but their successes don’t erase the fact that Black people today have a harder path than white people.

(3) Another pet peeve… why in the world is it so hard for white people to admit this? Admitting that things are extra hard for Black Americans and committing to finding out ways to level things up does NOT mean you (white person) have had smooth sailing. It does NOT diminish the struggle you faced. It does NOT take away from the hard work you put into getting yourself where you are. So why must you deny the problems we have in America? The March on Washington yesterday was filled with people who have something to say and I don’t see the harm in hearing what that message is!

This isn’t hard, people. L.I.S.T.E.N. Decide what to “share and post” after you’ve listened to what they are saying. Don’t listen to another newscaster. Stop with the Fox/CNN/NBC crap. You know where I learned all I’ve learned? From reading books about the topic, talking to Black people and hearing their personal stories. From research that is unbiased… that sometimes set out to disprove racial issues only to find they really exist. Do the research for yourself.

For the LOVE… Don’t share memes that undermine what hundreds of thousands of people are trying to say. (And if you mention rioters one time, I’ll delete the comment. I think it’s safe to say that if you are a FB friend of mine you can assume I don’t support rioting, harming another individual, or breaking laws that are meant to protect life and liberty… if you can’t read my above post (rant?) without wanting to throw the rioting into the conversation, it is absolute proof that you haven’t listened to a word “they” are saying. Listen to their words. Listen to the messages their actions (the March, the kneeling, the boycotting of games) are saying. LISTEN. It’s. Not. That. Hard.)

About Jennifer

"Yes, they're all mine." The answer to the question I hear most often.
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