Be color brave, not color blind

Yesterday I shared some reasons why color blind shouldn’t be our goal.

White Americans tend to be very uncomfortable talking about race. A very helpful tip I learned long ago from Dave Ramsey’s FPU course is that when approaching an awkward conversation, start with that:

“Hey, I would like to chat with you about something that may be awkward… However, it’s very important to me and that’s why I think the discomfort is worth working through….”

People in friendships should be able to start with this and, with grace and understanding, work through conversations about challenging topics. For conversations like this, you must have the ability to “listen to understand and learn,” not just to respond.

I love Be the Bridge groups because these conversations are facilitated and centered around a certain topic and the group goes through the process together. I urge you to look into that and consider joining or starting a local group.

The following video is one I watched early on in my journey. I’ve decided that rather than pretend all of my friends are the same and have had similar experiences to mine, I’m going to be brave and ask them about their perspectives. Even to the point of getting the opinions of friends of color before Anna wears certain costumes for Halloween.

This blog post is under five minutes to read, but when you have 14 minutes, watch Mellody Hobson’s Ted Talk. Her words are so powerful.

From the Ted Talk website:

The subject of race can be very touchy. As finance executive Mellody Hobson says, it’s a “conversational third rail.” But, she says, that’s exactly why we need to start talking about it. In this engaging, persuasive talk, Hobson makes the case that speaking openly about race — and particularly about diversity in hiring — makes for better businesses and a better society.

This talk was presented at an official TED conference, and was featured by our editors on the home page.

Mellody Hobson – Instagram – @MellodyHobson
President and co-CEO of Ariel Investments
Be the Bridge

Kathleen Johnson

Previous posts in this series:
Intro: #OnceYouSeeRacism
1. Build your “talking about racism” muscles. – {general racism}
2. The Dangers of the color blind mentality – {color bind}
3. You are here… {color blind mentality}

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